School Fights

Starting School the Right Way - Tips and Strategies to Support Your Child
By Christopher Auer

As a parent of a child with special needs, including Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) I start to feel very anxious this time of year. The new school year is approaching and I am filled with questions and doubts, such as “Will my child fall further behind his peers?”, “Will his new teacher understand and support his unique needs?”

For me, the worst doubts revolve around the Individualized Education Plan (IEP) and my child’s anxiety. When it comes to the IEP, I am on heightened state of alert – ready to do battle. I know this isn’t healthy to me or my family. I want to be sure that my child is receiving everything he is entitled to. I cannot wait for future services. I cannot wait for him to fail.

To begin the school year off on a more positive track, I suggest some plain old relationship building. The secretary is usually the most influential person on staff. Many principals have been run out of town by a secretary led revolt. Prior to the first day of school, stop by and introduce yourself and your child if you aren’t already acquainted. Present the secretary with a small gift such as a decent pen, flowers, cookies, or maybe a picture from your child.

Your next stop is the principal. Again, present some small gift with your child. You might have a quick chat to clarify the supports your child needs in the classroom. Your goal is to assure that the principal knows your child (in a positive light) and also knows that you are an involved parent.